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Wordless Wednesday – Boston Chicken – It’s What’s for Dinner

April 29, 2008

Project 365 – Day 75

I hit Boston Market today after a slight change in dinner plans.

I received a phone call from my mom telling me that my father was on the way to the funeral home because my brother’s father-in-law had passed away.   I was more than a bit confused because I had heard he had a stroke on Saturday, but was never told that he had died.

I grilled my mom for information and then tried to reach my dad on his cell phone to find out what was going on.  He informed me that he had forgotten to tell me about his death and wake.

Well “thankyouverymuch” I replied and quickly drove to the funeral home to support my niece over her grandfather’s passing, as I knew she would be upset and wanted to pay my respects to this sweet man. 

As I stood among my brother’s family, my father casually walked over and loudly said, “Did you see Chet?” as he pointed to the casket with a slight grin and spoke in a tone like we were at a restaurant and he just stumbled upon a neighbor sitting at the booth adjacent to our table.

I just about swallowed my tongue.

Uh…does he not realize the man is dead and in *that* casket right over there?

So I did what any one would do in that situation, I gave him a quick tight lipped nod and quickly started up a conversation with someone else, pretending that I hadn’t heard him.

I stopped at his house later to let him know that his comment was tasteless and politely asked him to refrain from any further commentary at any future events.   After all, he has been known to take his camera with him. 

Bizarre I know. 

He seemed to be concerned that I did not get to see him up close and personal.  I informed him that I am happy remembering someone as they lived and not in death.  I have prepared enough corpses in my days working hospice and I went to support my family, not to be a typical gawker that whispers things like, “Gee, he looked just like himself.  They did a great job.”  I am more concerned about the soul and whether that person is with the Lord.

Oy.  Some things I guess I will never get.

27 Comments »

  1. carrie-the gremlin wrangler says:

    Oh that Norman! What is his deal? The chicken looks good though. You did remember to remove that container of asian salad from Sunday afternoon off the butcher block. I’m hoping you have some common sense enough to not keep nibbling at it two days later.

    April 29th, 2008 at 9:10 pm

  2. Dianne - Bunny Trails says:

    People can be funny, can’t they? I know what you mean – I’d rather have a live version for my last mental picture.

    April 29th, 2008 at 9:51 pm

  3. We are THAT family says:

    It’s called family. And if you ‘get it,’ let me know, so I can get it too.

    April 29th, 2008 at 10:52 pm

  4. Dawn @ My Home Sweet Home says:

    I didn’t know that you had worked in hospice. In my experience, those are some of the nicest people I’ve ever met.

    April 29th, 2008 at 11:19 pm

  5. Tiany says:

    I love Boston Market, wish we had those here. :-(

    April 30th, 2008 at 12:04 am

  6. Mariposa says:

    You are making me hungry!

    Happy WW!

    April 30th, 2008 at 12:31 am

  7. Leonard says:

    the chicken looked so yummy!!!

    happy WW!

    April 30th, 2008 at 1:26 am

  8. Eds says:

    wow so yummy! happy wordless!

    http://edsnanquil.com
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    April 30th, 2008 at 1:27 am

  9. Jan Parrish says:

    Everyone handles death differently. I like to have a photo if it’s someone I really loved. It does freak everyone out.

    April 30th, 2008 at 2:10 am

  10. tundratantrum says:

    Mmmmm…..Boston Chicken. There’s no Boston Chicken in my neck of the wood….and no Outback, no Olive Garden, No Red Lobster, no McDonalds, no Dairy Queen, no Dunkin Donuts, no…well….no anything lol.

    April 30th, 2008 at 2:33 am

  11. christine says:

    it’s my first time to visit. :) i like your header! the boston chicken looks delish and sorry to hear about the death in your brother’s family.

    WS Entry: Shades of Autumn

    April 30th, 2008 at 4:04 am

  12. Borski and Nai says:

    I can be quite uneasy too when people close to me don’t behave according to the accepted norms..so yeah, I guess I can relate to that..

    Happy WW! we had the same theme — food! :)

    April 30th, 2008 at 4:51 am

  13. gina says:

    I am sorry to hear about your family’s loss, my prayers are with your niece and her family.

    and the photo looks very delicious. :)

    April 30th, 2008 at 7:42 am

  14. Diana says:

    Interesting story…it never ceases to amaze me how different people react to life’s situations!

    April 30th, 2008 at 7:49 am

  15. Gabriel says:

    That looks quite yummy!

    Here is my post. Happy WW!

    April 30th, 2008 at 9:53 am

  16. Vered - MomGrind says:

    “He seemed to be concerned that I did not get to see him up close and personal. I informed him that I am happy remembering someone as they lived and not in death.”

    Couldn’t agree more.
    You worked at a hospice – you must be a strong person.

    April 30th, 2008 at 10:22 am

  17. Robyn says:

    I am starving and the chicken is making me hungrier…..

    Sorry about your FIL…it is good that you found out before you missed the funeral…

    April 30th, 2008 at 10:55 am

  18. Dillo says:

    Enjoying your site which I came across via WW. REALLY like the 365 idea! Sorry re the coffee thing. It is an addiction I’m not ready to shake yet. And….you should reconsider visiting California at some point in yer life!

    April 30th, 2008 at 11:29 am

  19. Cherie says:

    My sentiments exactly. I like to remember folks alive, and to know that they are with the Lord – most imperative. Some of the things that happen in the midst of death and funerals amaze me, leave me scratching my head. Just weird.

    My sympathies on your loss.

    On a lighter note – the chicken looks delicious. I want some!

    April 30th, 2008 at 12:00 pm

  20. Will says:

    I have never been to a Boston Market. We don’t have one here or a Trader Joe’s, another store everyone is hoping will open here.

    April 30th, 2008 at 1:17 pm

  21. Shutterbug says:

    What a BIG week! I’m so glad you had so much fun with Carrie. :)
    I know all about those uncomfortable family funerals, I’ve been to one too many. (Yes, I have relatives that bring cameras to funerals too.) I don’t get it either.
    Hope the sun shines brightly in your corner of the world.
    Have a pleasant day! :D
    Marie :)

    April 30th, 2008 at 1:40 pm

  22. Believer in Balance says:

    I’m glad you found out about the wake just in time!

    April 30th, 2008 at 2:12 pm

  23. Jeanine says:

    They closed by me, I miss them. :(

    April 30th, 2008 at 8:01 pm

  24. Kimmie says:

    Sending a hug, sorry!

    Kimmie
    mama to 6
    one homemade and 5 adopted

    April 30th, 2008 at 9:41 pm

  25. Gina says:

    (((HUGS))) Sorry for your loss.

    Boston chicken is my fave tho!

    April 30th, 2008 at 10:57 pm

  26. Amy Shipp says:

    Yikes! Akward!

    May 1st, 2008 at 4:16 pm

  27. Amy Shipp says:

    My comment went on the wrong blog!! Yours is definately not akward, but Yummy!!! *blush*

    May 1st, 2008 at 4:25 pm

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